If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, you may be feeling you’d like to rekindle the passion. But if, like most of us, you’re stuck in your ways the idea of pursuing a sexier, more intimate relationship may seem more than a little daunting. Never fear, the Hampers 4 Two team have come up with a few simple, easy to apply suggestions to help you and your partner get the magic back.
1. Flirt with each other
Remember how you acted when you first got together? Be like that again. Wink at your partner from across the room. Play with their hair. Touch their arm, leg—or bottom!—when you talk to each other. Kiss passionately. Let your partner know you still think they’re special.
2. Do something unexpected
Arrange for your children to sleepover at a friend’s house so you can spend some time alone with your partner. Or better yet book a night at an inexpensive local hotel. No one to look after the kids? Get them to bed early, then watch a movie together and make out like teenagers.
3. Give each other a full body massage
Grab some massage oil—virgin coconut oil is ideal—and revel in the sensations. Read our guide to giving a sensual massage for inspiration.
4. Take a shower together
You don’t have to have sex in the shower—but you can if want to! Instead, just relax and enjoy each other’s bodies.
5. Send your partner some sexy texts or emails
If you find it too difficult to say something sexy, try writing it instead.
6. Pack a picnic lunch or dinner with bite-size foods
Pack your picnic basket with strawberries, grapes, cubes of cheese, small sandwiches and tiny cakes and head to a secluded area of the beach or a park. Spread out your blanket, then feed each other bites. Let it be a sensuous activity that leads to other sensuous activities!
7. Do something fun you did early in your relationship, but haven’t done for a while
Think back to the early days of your relationship. What did you do then that you don’t do now? What added fun, novelty or excitement to your relationship? Pick one of those things and do it now.
8. Plan a date that facilitates sex & intimacy
Some dates don’t facilitate sex and intimacy, like a heavy restaurant meal that makes you feel bloated and sleepy. Instead plan a date that leaves both of you feeling relaxed, refreshed and in the mood for love.
Stay tuned for more helpful tips next week.